7 Disadvantages of pretty privilege

Disadvantages of being beautiful

Who would have thought that there would be a downside to an ‘appearance’ that many want to achieve. Well there is, being considered beautiful and pretty can be your worst nightmare if you let it. No matter the standard of beauty in your country/region, the facade that cause someone is pretty therefore their life must be ‘easy’ is deceitful. Today let me outline for you the disadvantages of being pretty that I encounter. Ps I will be making a lot of reference to the experiences I have encountered that has drown me to this conclusion

The lack of sympathy

Imagine living in a society that already assumes that you have all you need just because you are pretty and you still want more (you are in need). When you express insecurity about yourself, whether about a situation you faced usually with creepy stalker like behavior or especially about your physical appearance to your peers (or sometimes older) as we look to peers for support initially. The response is almost never of reassurance (“I think you are beautiful or it is not as visible as you think/ or no that is not normal behavior it might be dangerous you should report it “),it is used against you to put you down in front of others (” yeah, she is pretty but look at her crooked teeth/ Just cause you think you are pretty now you think someone is stalking you”) cause they already envy you so how dare you, you be insecure/ have an obsessive admirer (that might be dangerous) when they don’t.

Fan behavior

If you are pretty, you are ‘minority’ you are bound to gather spectators. What do fans do? They draw inspiration (if they don’t copy or just want you be exactly you?). You can see this behavior with friends, family and even strangers. What you wear they wear, what you buy they buy, what you say you want even when they expressed dislike initially when you told them, they have it all of a Sunday (Yes people change their minds but when you can change them quicker), they speak like you, adopt your puns and self created slurs. I mean yeah maybe you are really that good at fashion and literature but when they only laugh when you laugh they are fans. Unfortunately there is a thin line in identifying fans and people that just have the same exact interests.

How to test if you have friends or fans? Just like how they are always asking you if you like this or that and you also show them what you like, disapprove some of the things they say they like (On some yeah I don’t think I like that or That is really not my style) The repose should be ” well I think its cool/ we like different things/ continues to buy the item even when you don’t like it”. If not you have a …

Pedestal idolization

This is just a more cringe version of ‘Fan behavior’ . This is the level where they come to you, worship and praise you for your beauty (“You are so beautiful/ I want to look just like you/ what do you use for this, that and the third). There is no problem putting people on the right products but when it can be used against you (She is pretty cause she spends a lot of time with a Guasha sculping her face). Final nail to the coffin is when the ‘worship and praises’ is followed by them wanting to touch your face (to feel the smooth texture) or pull your hair cause it is so bouncy, healthy and shiny. That is when you know you are the cherry on top the cake. Now imagine going through that daily and come back and tell if you enjoy be pretty after constant harassment. God forbid you say NO to the harassment now you are just “stuck up and rude”.

Men Men MEN

So you thought navigating around men as a pretty women is a breeze. Well it can certainly be, but did you know that:(The survey found that 8% of women and 2% of men have been stalked at some time during their lives. This means that 1 out of every 12 women, and 1 out of ever 45 men have been stalked during their lives (2). Who stalks whom? Men commit most stalking.)https://mainweb-v.musc.edu/vawprevention/research/stalking.shtml#:~:text=The%20survey%20found%20that%208,Men%20commit%20most%20stalking.

Its giving “how dare you, I take all my courage to come talk to you and ask to take you out and you say no/ How dare you, not want to go out on a second date, How dare you, don’t want to date me “I will date you/ be close you forcefully”. Never mind the rude comments ( “You are not that pretty to say no to me/ Am sure no one wants to date cause are stuck up/ You will never find someone that likes/loves you like me/ Pretty girls are dumb/ You aren’t as interesting as you think”) you get will you don’t express interest or sometimes when they feel like you are out of their league.

Achievements

As a pretty women, it will almost always be assumed that the little or big things you achieve is because you are pretty. Why? because being a pretty women everything is easy and given to you. Even your achievements that require physical strength, its because you are pretty. It is also assumed that you are the iconic phrase “beauty without brains”. I won a science expo project and when I had just merely progressed to the next round after the first round my “friends” came to me and said “I thought you wouldn’t go to the next round”. Try getting your dream job when you are pretty (“You got because you are beautiful”).

Pretty Finances

“Pretty people are rich”. How can you look good and be broke? “Have you heard of good genes?”. People think because you are beautiful you are rich. Yes some have paid their way to being pretty and it requires some coins to remain slim and youthful looking. Try to say “I can’t afford that/I don’t have money”, and watch that person’s face contort in confusion. Its unfathomable that how are you this beautiful and broke (Isn’t your life easy and money brings ease therefore you must have money). And that is way my beautiful people should get paid for being pretty. I have experience this with beggars on the street, they wait for everyone who has might have money to give to pass and ask me and not just for anything the amount is usually higher or for expensive treats like “can you buy me … “(I would love to help if I had it too, but the neighborhood in where we are meeting should tell you that am also not all the way up there economically).

Rude Comments in general (compilation)

Especially women old and young can be your worst haters. I actually think to survive as a pretty women you need to be stuck , rude and extremely confident. If you have ever wondered why pretty women are most insecure and loneliest if not depressed people, this is why:

• You are not pretty your eyes are too far apart
• Your eyes are to big
•  Your legs are shaped like a bracket
•  Your feet are too big
•  You nose is to big
•  You have a lot of pimples (when I was clearly going through puberty)
•  You don’t have a big butt, it’s kind of flat
•  You are not that bright/clever
•  Your head is not looking good today? what’s wrong…
•  You are not as pretty as you think
•  Oh! what you wearing does not look good
•  Oh! you also have stretch marks
•  Your hairline is thinning
•  I didn’t know that pretty people are broke
•  You are pretty like you don’t go to the toilet6( that is how they project perfection unto you)
•  I didn’t think you were going to win the competition
• You are a “god thanks I am white” which meant if i didn’t have light skin I would be considered ugly

Conclusion

This is just a few of my experiences and hardships I have faced as a pretty women, I didn’t mention everything, felt like the post will be too long tell me if you want a part 2 (send me an email), share your thoughts, opinions, realizations and experiences, I would love like to hear them. Lastly, All that glitters is not gold and be careful of what you desire cause you just might get it.